I’m no expert on marriages,  but I have had two or three trainings on the subject, which I give credit to as one of the reasons I’m still married today.  I’m sure you’ve heard of the #1  reason (I’ve been told many) that marriages fail?  You may have been told that it’s lack of finances, infidelity, unforgiveness and  a host of other things & while these things play a major role in damaging relationships, these are only surface issues. Lets talk about what lies beneath.  The real reason 60 % of marriages fail is because the two no longer dream, together they’ve lost their vision. Doubt sets in and rips through a relationship that was meant to last a lifetime in a matter of a few short years (sometimes months) & there goes your happily ever after. Think about it this way, no one gets married and thinks to himself, “ oh,  I can’t wait to get married & then someday get a divorce.”  We all have the same goal in mind when building life-long partnerships, to be a force for good, accomplish beneficial goals, and have fun doing it.

In this particular course that my husband & I had the joy of  taking,  “well maybe not joy for me at the time” (I went in kicking and screaming) seriously, we learned the 3 parts of a relationship and this can be applied to any area of your life it’s also life changing, once understood and applied.

                                    Three ”Stages” of A Relationship

The “I” Deal Stage, or what I like to refer to as “bliss” is where all the excitement is, whether it’s in a relationship or business,  you’re all bright-eyed, & on fire, you can see the end result and it’s picture perfect, no one, and nothing can tell you otherwise.  Can you recall the time you fell in love with your spouse or significant other, or what about the time you joined that new opportunity? Can you think back to that excitement, and the adrenaline , I mean the thought of being a Sapphire, or Emerald, Diamond or whatever the top rank is in your company, well…. that’s the “I Deal stage.  You’re on the right track because everything must begin with the end in mind, but wait…. something happens right in the middle, something we are a too familiar with, the issues of  life.

The “Or” Deal. This is where the rubber meets the road. In this stage you are making progress, but progress requires stretching, which by the way, can very, very uncomfortable. In the “or” deal stage is where we realize that we have to start investing.  If we want relationships and businesses to grow, we must invest time and money. Most people aren’t willing to do either one of these because they are stuck in the ideal stage and doubt that things will really work out. The more you doubt, the harder it gets the more restraint the tighter the cord, & in most peoples mind the price is too, high. So we retreat back to our comfortable, yet miserable doubts and we divorce our dreams.

The ”Real” Deal. Now this is the still, quietness after the storm, you’ve been through the tough times, you’ve stumbled through with blood, sweat and tears. You know everything that matters, good and bad about your spouse, and you love them anyway,  you’ve decided to move forward. You’ve invested time, money, being lied to and lied on, deceived and schemed in some stages of your business, the dreadful no almost every call,  and being laughed at by your friends and family with no friends left,  but you were determined because you decided to stay married to your dreams for better or for worse, and now you’re living the happily ever after.

You can have the “real” deal in any marriage or business relationship, but you must remember to only stay connected to the positive things, the things that not only remind you of the commitment  you made,  but will also  help you achieve the dream faster. If no one has ever told you this, allow me…  I believe in you, I believe in your marriage, I believe in your business and any other dreams you may have, if you believe in them too, get up and get moving,   the abundant life is waiting on you.

“To The Best Of Your Life’

Ever wonder why some people sponsor new distributors effortlessly, while others struggle, badly without results for years?  I want share something with you & if you really understand it, you will have great success with your network marketing company.  Sponsoring,  recruiting and prospecting is all about psychology. The psychology of  leadership and human group dynamics. If you’re anything like I was in the beginning, you probably think it’s about a script,  your product (s) or what you say.  The truth is, there is no magic script or rebuttal to an objection that will bring about the results you want.  I remember retreating back to my dungeon,  calling my up-line while we “tweaked” my script and how I came across to my prospects. We even had weekly calls where we would practice saying our scripts, now while there is nothing wrong with that,  especially if you’re brand new to this industry, I want you to know there is no 1 right way to prospect.

What I’m about to share with you will give you the knowledge and power that took me years to acquire, it’ll  cut your learning curve by a few years, yes years. Once you master this mindset you will find yourself as a completely different person.

 3 Ways To Sponsor More Reps In A Month Than Most Sponsor All Year

When sponsoring the goal is NOT to sell our prospects on the opportunity or the product.  I know, it’s not what you’ve been taught by your up-line or at your weekly hotel meeting.  When it comes to this industry there is a problem with selling, if you sell someone on getting started in your business by pumping them up emotionally, targeting their hot buttons (through persuasive conversation and closing techniques) you will recruit a lot of people and make sales, in the beginning.  I did.   However, once the emotions wear off, a week from now, a month from now or whenever life takes a turn in the wrong direction, the buyer will experience remorse.  They suddenly realize that there is real work involved, skills to be learned, money to invest and much, much more. Guess what happens? They go back to their lives, yep the lives they told you they are unhappy with.  Why?  It’s their comfort zone.  It’s unfortunate in this industry, but this happens most of the time. New distributors are naturally focused on making the sale because they need the money, they want the recognition and the self gratification.

While many have achieved success through this process because they’ve sponsor lots of reps, it’s an uphill battle and it’s hard work.  If you’re like me and just don’t have the personality for that type of sponsoring, I have great news for you there is a much better way & it’s been proven time and time again.  “Make It Their Idea To Buy From You”

I.      You Must Be Invited

There is nothing worse than having an uninvited guest interrupt the flow of your day. I’m sure you can relate to this, have you ever been on an important call only to have a telemarketer calling on the other end (if you have call waiting) , or a salesman at the door trying to sell you a set of  encyclopedias.  Most likely, your upset and your not interested because they interrupted you and you did not invite them into your world.

If you’re going to sell anything,  you must find a way to be invited into their world as a welcomed guest instead of an uninvited pest. You have 2 options when it comes to building your business, you can continue the path that the 95% of home business owners take (old school prospecting-cold calling) or you can position yourself in the marketplace that allows interested prospects to contact you.  Otherwise known as “Attraction Marketing”  

II.    You Want To Market You “Generate Attraction”

You may be thinking “how do I market myself?” I’m sureyou’ve heard the phrase  “people buy from people they know, like and trust.” You have to offer your potential prospects something more than your opportunity.  Eveyone’s favorite channel, including yours and mine is WIIFM (What’s In It For Me). You prospect wants to know, how are you going to help them achieve the goals and dreams they want.  How are you goint to help them get the lifestyle or one similar to the one advertised on your company’s video or website.   Although they are joining a company, in the prospect’s mind they’re joining  “YOU.” What value can you offer to your prospect?  You can generate attraction  or increase your value by educating yourself  to become an expert in a particular area (lead generation, sponsoring prospects, et cetera).  If you don’t demonstrate to your prospect that your value is equal to or greater than their’s, sadly they WILL NOT join you. Sponsoring is all about leadership;  no value= no invite.

III.    The Fortune Is In The Follow Up

It’s been said time & time again, the fortune is in the follow up. The first thing you need to do is realize  that in this industry you get paid for one thing and only one thing … Taking Orders.  That’s it! So it wouldn’t be a wise thing to spend 3 to 4 hours or more working on your business. Remember, you are not being paid to call leads, hand out products, get on webinars,  or set up marketing.  You’re only being paid when you place an order.  This is your most valuable activity and personally the only activity you should be engaged in. If you’re on a budget you may have to do these things in the beginning, but there are lots of affiliate programs that can put some right not cash in your pocket, so you can outsource the no-profit activities to someone else.  The more follow ups you have the more orders you take, the more money, you get the picture.

If you’re struggling to stay a float due to a shoe string budget, a great affiliate offer to check out  is http://neweconomyfranchising.biz/smartbiz . This program is great for beginners, Chad & Mark really set you up for success, and you can realistically make a few hundred bucks within a week or so.

“To The Best of Your Life”

Do you know anyone who wears contacts or glasses?  Maybe you know someone who had their vision corrected using laser technology, or maybe that someone is you. Why do we continue to spend money on these things, what could be that important? We all need to FOCUS. If we can’t see clearly, we will spend our last $100 to regain correct vision so that we can  focus.  If focusing is that important in regards to our sight, why does it lie dormant in other areas in our lives?

To focus on a thing is a very important task, I’m sure we can all  agree that when you drive down the road on a rainy day and you hit a huge pot hole that leaves mud smeared all over your windshield, you’re not going to just leave it on and keep driving. Why not?  You’ll loose your focus and end up some place you don’t want go. It’s the same with anything in else in life, our business, love, health, family, finances and relationships, and most people aren’t even aware that these things are just as important if not more important. If you lose your focus while driving for one reason or another the price could be devastating, if you lose your focus in life the results are equal (mediocrity and/or poverty). I’d like to share 4 pivital points (if applied daily) that will place you on the right path to obtaining your goals &  dreams in record breaking time:

Picture Your Success

On this journey called “life” you don’t get what you want, you get what you picture. Where do you want to be 2 to 3 years from today? Are you happy, married, have children, how much money do you want in the bank, what type of home do you want to live, what type of vehicle do you drive, where do go for family vacations,etc.,  you get the “picture.” When you begin to harness the power of focus and get the emotions behind it, you can achieve goals in six months that would have otherwise taken six years.

Remove Clutter & Chas From Your Life

Clutter and chaos create high levels of  unnecessary stress and produce feelings of overwhelm.  Here are a few ways you can get started on this task immediately:

Identify activities that directly impact your primary goals-  Eliminate (temporary) the activities or limit your participation in things that are not moving you one step closer tho your goal.  Don’t waste time on activities that have no significant relationship to your main objective.

Give limited access to those who are not supporters of your goal.  Our family and friends love us dearly, and I believe they really do want the best for us, but sometimes they can be the biggest dream stealers. I’m in no way suggesting you shut them out completey, but if you have big goals and dreams you have to give them limited access.

Cause Obstacles To Become Obsolete

It’s been said by many mothers (including myself) that while giving birth to a new baby is one of the most painful experiences (or at least it was for me), the pain cannot compare to the joy of seeing the face of such a beautiful (perfect) creation. I use this example to prove that the pain involved in child bearing could be trippled and women would still sign up for the priviledge. My girl friends and I talk about how horrible the pain is all the time, yet they are still reproducing, (I opted  in for “one & done). This very same concept holds true for building things that are priceless, like a joyous, harmonial marriage, or a business that will give you the life of freedom you’ve always wanted. In the beginning the pain seems unbearable, but when you finally possess it the pain can’t compare to the joy in that moment and many more moments to come.

When you become completely consumed with accomplishing your goals, and began to really focus as if the realization of that goal is the most important task on you plate, the challenges (as they will come) will no longer matter, because you’re so focused and in tune that you have already stepped into the outcome (mentally); so you won’t quit, flinch, back down or even reconsider.

Focus + Massive Action= Wealth

No one has ever become wealthy (in a career or business) simply by wishing for it. Great wealth has always been realized in specific areas of being focused. Wealth has always been and will always be awarded to those who understand and implement the power of FOCUS.  Often times we applaud those who master this area so well,  their abilities seem impossible. Impossible, no; determined, focused & driven, yes! Here a few names you may be familiar with that most people have thought to be “super-human” Oprah Winfrey, Michael Jordan, Bill Gates, & Steve Jobs.  These individuals all share a common trait, their ability to focus.  However, focus alone won’t get you to where you want to go, you must take massive action, ie..( get in the vehicle and drive to your destination).  Focusing on your goal while taking persistent action is a sure fire way to put you on the fast track to wealth.

What’s distracting you? Get focused, recommit and become the change you want to see in others.

“To The Best of Your Life”