I’m no expert on marriages, but I have had two or three trainings on the subject, which I give credit to as one of the reasons I’m still married today. I’m sure you’ve heard of the #1 reason (I’ve been told many) that marriages fail? You may have been told that it’s lack of finances, infidelity, unforgiveness and a host of other things & while these things play a major role in damaging relationships, these are only surface issues. Lets talk about what lies beneath. The real reason 60 % of marriages fail is because the two no longer dream, together they’ve lost their vision. Doubt sets in and rips through a relationship that was meant to last a lifetime in a matter of a few short years (sometimes months) & there goes your happily ever after. Think about it this way, no one gets married and thinks to himself, “ oh, I can’t wait to get married & then someday get a divorce.” We all have the same goal in mind when building life-long partnerships, to be a force for good, accomplish beneficial goals, and have fun doing it.
In this particular course that my husband & I had the joy of taking, “well maybe not joy for me at the time” (I went in kicking and screaming) seriously, we learned the 3 parts of a relationship and this can be applied to any area of your life it’s also life changing, once understood and applied.
Three ”Stages” of A Relationship
The “I” Deal Stage, or what I like to refer to as “bliss” is where all the excitement is, whether it’s in a relationship or business, you’re all bright-eyed, & on fire, you can see the end result and it’s picture perfect, no one, and nothing can tell you otherwise. Can you recall the time you fell in love with your spouse or significant other, or what about the time you joined that new opportunity? Can you think back to that excitement, and the adrenaline , I mean the thought of being a Sapphire, or Emerald, Diamond or whatever the top rank is in your company, well…. that’s the “I Deal stage. You’re on the right track because everything must begin with the end in mind, but wait…. something happens right in the middle, something we are a too familiar with, the issues of life.
The “Or” Deal. This is where the rubber meets the road. In this stage you are making progress, but progress requires stretching, which by the way, can very, very uncomfortable. In the “or” deal stage is where we realize that we have to start investing. If we want relationships and businesses to grow, we must invest time and money. Most people aren’t willing to do either one of these because they are stuck in the ideal stage and doubt that things will really work out. The more you doubt, the harder it gets the more restraint the tighter the cord, & in most peoples mind the price is too, high. So we retreat back to our comfortable, yet miserable doubts and we divorce our dreams.
The ”Real” Deal. Now this is the still, quietness after the storm, you’ve been through the tough times, you’ve stumbled through with blood, sweat and tears. You know everything that matters, good and bad about your spouse, and you love them anyway, you’ve decided to move forward. You’ve invested time, money, being lied to and lied on, deceived and schemed in some stages of your business, the dreadful no almost every call, and being laughed at by your friends and family with no friends left, but you were determined because you decided to stay married to your dreams for better or for worse, and now you’re living the happily ever after.
You can have the “real” deal in any marriage or business relationship, but you must remember to only stay connected to the positive things, the things that not only remind you of the commitment you made, but will also help you achieve the dream faster. If no one has ever told you this, allow me… I believe in you, I believe in your marriage, I believe in your business and any other dreams you may have, if you believe in them too, get up and get moving, the abundant life is waiting on you.
“To The Best Of Your Life’